Stevie Wonder, My Mother, Our Blind Friend Helena and Mrs. Beneduci

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I have a long association with Stevie Wonder.

Not in person, you understand, but through his music.

I have never met the man and probably never will, but I remember racing down to the local record store to buy a copy of ‘Yester -me, Yester- you, Yesterday’ when I was just 17 years old. You had to be fast in those days because any new Tamla Motown single that came into the store sold out very quickly.

There was no need to rush home because once you managed to get your hands on the object of your desire; you could breathe a sigh of relief as you left the store, safe in the knowledge that you got there before some other poor soul who was just as desperate as you to hear Stevie’s music. But not just Stevie; The Four Tops, Marvin Gaye, Diana Ross, Edwin Starr, Jimmy Ruffin, in fact any record that bore the stamp ‘Tamla Motown’ because there was no other music like it for us.

This is strange really, when you consider it, because I was brought up in a small working class town built on coal and cotton 20 miles from Liverpool, the home of The Beatles. The USA wanted the Beatles but we wanted Tamla, because nothing else came close.

Strolling home with this new 45, I knew how I was going to play it. Add it to the stack of my other great Tamla 45’s in the big wooden stereo record player with its big separate, wooden speakers. Drag the speakers to where they faced each other and lie down on the floor with my head in between them, and hit the play button on the automatic feeder and just escape.

I never considered Stevie Wonder’s blindness as an asset or a liability in his rise to stardom, in fact, I never considered it at all because I was too caught up in my own little world. Five years previously, as a 12 year old, I was not in a good place. I was afraid my mother might die. At that time, my mother was in hospital with breast cancer. My father had to work to pay the bills, and I, as the oldest of eight kids had to try to keep everything together even though we were all frozen with fear. I had fear; my mother had faith. She started every day from her hospital bed with prayers of gratitude for what she already had.

The day I bought, ‘Yester -me, Yester- you, Yesterday’ I was rejoicing because my mother had just completed five years of gruelling chemotherapy while rearing the eight of us and thank God, the cancer had gone.

It is only in recent years that I have come to realise what an inspirational figure Stevie Wonder was back then because this last year my wife has been caring for a blind girl, Helena, who is also an inspiration. Helena recently celebrated her 30th birthday and at the party in her honour she never saw the colourful balloons, or the birthday cards, or the cake, or the smiles of her family and friends. She never saw the party dresses, or the disco lights but what she did see in her heart was that she was loved because her birthday speech that night was one of hope, thanksgiving, and gratitude for what she already had.

The same love that had been lavished on Helena by her family was probably the same love that Mrs. Beneduci, the teacher of the 9 year old blind boy, Stevie Morris used when she asked him to use his extraordinary hearing skills to find the mouse loose in the classroom. That love exchanged Stevie Morris’s low self-esteem for one of self-confidence because now, here was something he was good at. He could not see, but he could hear and use that hearing to outstanding effect and with this gift he could become Stevie Wonder.

For me, what brings Stevie Wonder, My Mother, Helena and Mrs. Beneduci together is that they are all figures of towering inspiration. And when you are feeling low and unloved, you need people in your life like this to calm your fears and raise your spirits because in the end all there is; is love.

The wooden stereo system is long gone, and my mother and father have gone to their eternal reward. And if you were to ask me what brought this blog on, it’s not because I recently watched Stevie Wonder’s inspirational playing and singing at Whitney Houston’s funeral. It’s not because Helena recently attended a Tamla Motown Night, but because I have just found that Stevie Wonder record, still in its Tamla Motown dust jacket, that I bought in that long gone store over 42 years ago and the old memories of fear, pain, joy, thanksgiving and the love that was lavished on me as a child that I try to lavish on my family, as you do with yours, all came flooding back to me within the dustsheet of that old 45. So here I pause to thank Stevie, to thank my Mother and Father, to thank Helena and Mrs. Beneduci because without them, we would be living in a lost world.

Thanks for taking the time to read this blog. And may your God go with you.

Peace.

Peter McLoughlin

Author of  How to Lose Weight Without Diet or Exercise Permanently

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People Are Too Busy Counting Calories To Lose Any Weight

I don’t know how many times you have been down the road of counting calories to lose some weight but I can tell you quite categorically right now for the type of weight you want to lose, calorie counting does not work on so many levels.

The type of weight that I am talking about is permanent weight loss, not yo-yo weight loss, which leaves you back to where you started from. After forty years as a practicing physician in the field of helping people to lose weight, Dr. Barnet Meltzer says this:

‘For short-term weight loss you can focus on calorie counting better known as dieting. For long-term results, the emphasis needs to be on your metabolism – and the calorie and fat burning functions of your metabolism.’

The reason he says this is fundamental to why calorie counting does not work long-term. Calorie counting does not take into consideration that not all calories are created equal because there is a world of difference in the calories of natural unprocessed foods such as those bought from ‘a farmers’ market’ to those highly processed foods bought from the ‘supermarket’ and or ‘fast food outlets’.

Highly processed foods which contain calories obtained from processed sugars like corn syrup disrupt the balance of the body’s blood sugar levels causing a spike in blood sugar in the bloodstream. This disruption causes your metabolism to slow down. Slow metabolism is fatal to your weight loss efforts. Add to that the fact that highly processed sugars are not what your body is seeking and once they enter the bloodstream, insulin is released to thwart their efforts to get into the muscle and organ cells of your body. Insulin will bar their access and direct those volatile calories to the only place that they can be accepted – The Fat Club, which is all around your waist and your thighs.

To counteract this all you have to do is eat and drink natural unprocessed foods and liquids which do not disrupt the natural balance of your body’s systems thus steadying  your blood sugar levels, and as a result speeding up your metabolism. Speeding up your metabolism is the only true and realistic way to lose weight long-term and permanently.

Losing weight is not a matter of drastically changing your lifestyle but a matter of knowing what works, and more to the point, what has been proven to work by the use of clinical trials from eminent physicians and universities. Please do not fall into the trap of believing the unproven hype that you see all over the internet because when you fail, it is very hard for you to pick yourself up, especially when the wrong information and not your desires and efforts have caused this failure in the first place. Take the time to find out what really works and why, and when you stand on the beach in your bikini or swim shorts, you will be glad that you did.

Peter McLoughlin

Author of How to Lose Weight Without Diet or Exercise Permanently

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How to Win when you have only ever been a loser

Winning and losing are like night and day. Winning puts you on a high, losing brings you low, but here’s the thing…How can you hold onto a winning belief if you have only ever experienced losing. This was my dilemma aged 42. Twice I had attempted to reach a first Dan grade in shotokan karate. I knew that there was around 90% chance I would fail because that was the average for the people going for the grade. I knew I could be hurt because a friend of mine nearly lost all his teeth from one kick and still failed the grade. I had tasted the bitter pill of failure before and went back to my class and put the brown belt back on again. So how do you win in the midst of failure?

You win by doing this…(and remember what I am telling you I learned the hard way).

1.There is no such thing as a total loser. Think back in your life and find something where you won through. Did you pass your driving test. Did you win a prize at school. Begin to win by reliving and holding onto those winning feelings you experienced at the time.

2.Whatever you are hoping to achieve or win in the future, begin by transposing those winning feelings that you have already experienced onto your new challenge.

3.This is very important.Whatever you are hoping to win or achieve, you must set aside a period of time every night in bed just before you go to sleep and see your self going through the movements of the winning you desire.This has the effect of remapping your mind by setting up different neural grooves in your brain. It is subtle yet profound.

4.When you do this every night over a period of weeks – you have already won.

This was my formula for success. I saw myself going through the Dan grade over and over in my mind for several weeks before the actual event. I was in a safe environment with no stress. When I actually had to physically fight for my grade, I was still fearful and like a cat on a hot tin roof but when the call to action came. I received a still calm that carried me through to success because I had already experienced this success in my mind. This is the secret. Dispel your feelings of losing by creating feelings of winning in your mind first, based on the things in your past life that you have already won.

Now you know – what’s stopping you?

To your continued success.

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Why You should use words of gratitude to become Ultimately Succesful

expression of gratitudeAn expression of gratitude, words of gratitude are the often overlooked key to unlocking tremendous positive power in your life. If you are prone, as we all are at times, to thinking that no matter what I try or no matter what I turn my hand to, I seem to fail instead of succeeding. Failure is a bitter pill to swallow.If you have never believed you have succeeded then failure is a hard starting point to move from toward success but here’s the thing. If you substitute feelings of failure for expressions of gratitude (for the things you already have) then you change everything in an instant.

To illustrate this let me share with you a personal story. It is about a woman in her early forties who had been struck down with breast cancer and had undergone a mastectomy in the world famous Christie’s Hospital. This was in the early sixties when breast cancer was almost a death sentence. The woman had two things in her favour to help her survive, one was a tremendous faith in God, and the other was that she started her day thanking God for the things she already had. The woman survived this cancer for many years when all around her in the ward died. The woman was my mother and at that time I was the oldest of eight children. So together with faith, gratitude, and a burning desire to bring up her family, my mother overcame this monster. You may not have a life threatening illness but to really succeed in life start by using the power of gratitude and see the tremendous changes occur in your attitude to life and those whom you come into contact with on a daily basis.

To your continued success

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Motivation is Dead.Read Why!

Having spent 22 years involved with the martial art of Shotokan Karate, I understand from first hand the difference between motivation, inspiration and will power.

When you understand the difference, you will stop spinning your wheels and gain traction to propel you to whatever goals you seek. Here’s how….

Motivation is the big mouth on the sidelines that is roaring at you to do better. It pushes.If you have to be pushed you are not enjoying what you are doing.

Will power is even worse because will power is like driving the square peg into the round hole. It is like cutting wood against the grain. If you need will power, you are on the wrong road.

Inspiration on the other hand is the call to greatness. It comes when you bump into someone who causes you to be inspired. Inspiration causes a small spark to light within a person that can be fanned by curiosity and through repeated exposure to the source of the inspiration can draw a person forward and create a burning desire within that can never be extinguished until that burning desire has been reached.

It took me 22 years to learn that lesson and the reason so many people fall by the wayside on their quest,no matter what that quest may be, is because they never really came across that mentor who could and would inspire them to greatness. Find the mentor and you have found your way. Do not try to use will power or motivation because they are unsustainable in the long term. Seek to be inspired.Accept invitations to places you would not normally go.Become intensely curious about what thrills you and sooner or later, your goals, your burning desires will crystallize and you will have found your way.

To your continued success

Peter

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